Blog Spot - Leading a New Generation part 8

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No doubt it’s hard to see a loved one self-sabotage and give up on themselves. Try not to judge or disapprove of the behaviours themselves. As a carer you may need to be stern with your own boundaries of how much you can tolerate. If you can share with the young person that you don’t understand why they are behaving like this, tell them you care about them and share that you would like to know more so that you can continue to help them out.

If they don’t open up try not to take it personally. There is always another day. Keep trying.

Often the pathway to seeking help can take time. Young people in crisis can sometimes be put on waiting lists for 6 week-6months. In this time young people need to be natured.

When someone finally seeks help, know that counselling sessions and psychology visits can often be very emotionally engaging sessions. Something you can help by offering to catch up with them as soon as you can after their sessions. Even when someone is on a pathway to recovery it can still be a very draining experience.

Knowledge to share:

1) Know in your heart that it will be up to the individual to decide when they are ready for help

2) Keep words kind and support where you can

3) Try not to take it personally if they are not ready for help.

4) Keep your emotions at a distance if you have to protect yourself. Know that you are likely feeling their pain and apply self- care techniques to keep yourself strong.

5) Speak from the heart to share what it's like for you to witness your loved one going through their journey. Writing these experiences in a journal can be very cathartic

6) Empathise for the individual and continue to share that you only have their best interests at heart

Final note…

There are many topics to cover. So far the 8 topics covered in this series are just touching on the basics. We do very much hope that it has been useful information for you. If you have any additional comments or topics that you would like to share with our team go to

Please note that Mind Blank itself is not a crisis support service. There are many outreach and counselling services out there. If you or a loved one needs immediately do have a look through the services below for guidance.



There are a variety of phone and web based services to offer you help and advice if you or someone you know are experiencing mental health related issues.

Important numbers and websites for seeking help:

Lifeline (24 / 7): 13 11 14

Kids Helpline: 1800 18 7263

Headspace (Open 9am-5pm):

Reach Out:

Beyond Blue:

Finding Services

Wesley Mission has developed a responsive website to provide fast and reliable access to suicide prevention and crisis support contact numbers from any location in Australia.

Find services with the Wesley LifeForce Service Finder.

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